Saturday, September 10, 2011

Blog Intentions

The intention of this blog is well thought out. I am leaving the other blog behind because quite frankly, I have outgrown it. I love my kids, but no longer refer to them as peas.....their getting a bit old for that. I am no longer searching in life. I have happily landed in mainstream land and I am likin' it despite all the negativity surrounding public schooling and every other thing I tried to be and wasn't. Who am I, I am me..... first and foremost. My seven kids play a large part in my life obviously, but they aren't all I am. I am done being controlled by religion, religious friends and church's. I have NO desire for brainwashing or indocrintation. I am over being impressionable and suppressed. I am over hating myself and hiding who I am. I am here to speak my mind loud and clear about whatever pops into my head be it politics, parenting, marriage, education, sex, religion or lack thereof, tolerance, etc. Welcome to this blog and I hope my old readers understand that I am not here to be "saved" or "helped." I don't need to be saved or fixed. I am not broken or lost or in need of rescue. If you think I am, then I think you are. I don't need followers who are in perfect agreement with all my sentaments, but I don't want daily links about why the bible is true or why I am wrong for not being a submissive christian lady raising a big family. I don't care if you think I am raising a generation of fuck-ups by no longer practicing religion. That isn't the purpose of this blog. I just want to talk openly without constant links from the "conversion police" or "missionaries" or whaever else you may call yourself. If god is up there, tell him to show himself because until then I am done believing. So if your not offended and willing to stick it out, "follow" my blog, if not, it was nice knowin ya!


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  2. Dear Janis,

    Hello, my name is Jullie, you don't know me but I have been following your blog(s) for years now, not sure how many to be exact, but I just know it has been a while, a long while. Please do not be creeped out by this as that is not my intenion. I was considering emailing you in private but could not figure out your email, feel free to delete this comment, I will not get offended.

    Anywho, coming from a very small family - just one brother, two parents and no grandparents, I have always been very interested in large families and how they function. Seeing your beautiful family caught my eye and I was hooked! From the very beginning, seeing your views and struggles with religion has lead me to believe that one day you will leave it all behind, so, that day has finally come and I could not be any happier for you! I could see you were too strong of a woman to believe in such things, no disrespect to those who do.

    I guess what I am trying to say is.. Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us. Thank you for showing me that being true to yourself is the most important thing and that will lead to ultimate happinness. Thank you for being so honest. Thank you for not being afraid to be yourself. Thank you for bringing so many cute kids into this world. Thank you for not shoving religion down their throats. Thank you for letting them be their own leaders. And, Janis, thank you for showing me the beauty of a large family. I will forever remember you and will follow as long as you continue to let us into your life.

  3. Julie, How sweet, Thank you so much for such a nice compliment!!

  4. Its funny I found your blog a few years ago when I was looking up post pregnancy bodies and your blog popped up with you in bikini pics after a baby. I really enjoyed reading those posts and was surprised when you would go uber religious and then go non religious. The thing is, you should be able to have both. you should be able to believe with out being pushy (or feeling pushed) and feel like you are being judged for everything you ever do. Jesus already died for our sins and we are all sinners. I can't imagine running your life a certain direction because of what other people think or what they feel you should be doing. Just teach your kiddos about being good people and doing the right thing. The rest will fall into place. Your not a bad person and its terrible that other people have made you feel that way. I hope the best for you and look forward to reading about your adventures.

  5. Welcome to living while I am Catholic I am more liberal and mainsteam and am at a happy medium to. I tried for years to follow a fundie (fundamental christian) lifestyle, but it did more harm than good and I tried so hard to fit the mold of who I wasn't. I changed so much from my clothes and everything else but was miserable inside. Since getting out of fundie beliefs I have never been happier. I think religion is a personal thing and no one should try to save you or shove their beliefs down your throat. I read your blog for awhile and I'm glad you and your kids are happy without being held to man made standards of modesty (dresses only) and all the "rules". You should check out Vyckie Garrison who runs she is also on facebook her family was very deep into fundie Christianity until her oldest daughter tried to take her life. Now like you they are mainstream and her kids are in school and they are happy.